I can’t


I can’t

Could there be a better way to set yourself up for failure? As soon as you say, “I can’t”, you have just lost all hope of succeeding.

We’ve all encountered situations that are difficult, challengeing, and complicated in our lives. Imagine, saying I can’t before each one of them. Trying a foreign food, asking your wife to marry you, going down the black diamond trail, jumping out of an airplane, or pushing out 100 burpees for time. The only thing that can stop you from doing any of those is your mindset. As soon as you change it from “I can’t” to “I can”, a whole world of possibilities opens up to you.

Living life is all about accepting those challenges that are put in front of you. Recognizing that you CAN, even though it might be hard, time-consuming and painful. When you rise to the challenge and succeed, you’ll become overwhelmed with a great feeling of accomplishment. You’ll also discover things about yourself that you never knew.

I’ll leave you with a quote:

“Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.”
   -Joshua J. Marine


12 Responses

  1. Kevin

    What are some alternatives to the word “can’t”?

    My personal favorite is…”I am physically unable to perform that task at this moment”

  2. Pierre

    Nice write-up Kevin!!! Very interesting.

    Now, everytime I face up a WOD, or any other challenges in my life, that challenged my mind/physical abilities (i.e. every Crossfit WOD 😉 ) I always say to myself that I need to give my best, push as hard as I can and do it NOW (like a Crossfit WOD). If you don’t do it now and put it on the side….you will never take the “can’t” back to try it by yourself. So you might as well try it now and see what you are able to.

    This is how I see all the “can’t”s

    But I haven’t always been like.
    I still remember my very first WOD in the park, back August 12th, (I even remember that very date) and even worst, I even remember the very last set of 10 pullups I did. And in my head I was saying: I can’t do this, man those pullups are hard…I won’t survive to this.

    The WOD was:
    10 situps
    10 Back ext.
    30 OHS
    30 Pullups
    20 situps
    20 Back ext.
    20 OHS
    20 pullups
    30 situps
    30 back ext.
    10 OHS
    10 Pullups

    But the next day, I was back, trying some crazy WOD that Kevin was giving us. And now, everyday since August 12th, I feed my body and my mind with some challenges that I wouldn’t had imagine I would have been able to do 7 months ago.
    “Murph”, “Angie”, “Fran”, 5k run, 400m sprint, CFT, ,……..the list is a LOT longer. Those are all challenges that I tried. Some of them, yes I could have done better, yes I could have pushed harder, yes they were ALL hard of my body/mind, but I tried them.

    All those challenges I went thru in my life, makes me the person I am now……and the best in this, is that there will be no ends to that! Bring them on, I am ready for the “can’t”s.

    P.S.: I hope my english is not to bad. 😀

  3. Pierre, your english is adorable. Kevin would probably argue that it’s just as good as mine

    I want to comment on this, but I’m really not quite sure what to say. Of course anyone who crossfits recognizes the power in this post, and I’m sure we can all testify to doing things that we once thought were impossible (burpees, pullups, running, whatever). But I think it takes more than just semantics and changing our vocabulary to initiate the “I can” mindset.

    Granted there are folks out there who are highly self-motivated and who are ready to take on any challenge put before them. But for some of us, I believe that it is only through the strength of our relationships that we can really overcome our most difficult challenges, fears, obstacles, etc. It’s much easier to attempt the seemingly impossible when you know that you have a friend, sister, or CF Community supporting you and cheering you on at the finish line. Furthermore, through sheer lack of inexperience, sometimes we just don’t know what we are capable of. We need teachers, coaches, parents, and mentors who have been there to assure us that “Yes, you can do it.”

  4. Krista

    Mindset is very powerful, and yes while some, like Jeanette said, are naturals to take on a challenge, I also strongly agree with her on the idea of community.

    It makes me think back to my first ever mountain bike race, where my two good friends tricked me into doing the ‘sport’ class instead of the ‘novice’ category I had told myself that I probable couldn’t complete anyway. But after the 1:45 drive to get there I had not other choice (unless I wanted to sit in the car and wait all day for them). I did the race, and I finished it, bloodied and tired and sore, but I finished it! (and I even came in 3rd of 4, so that made me extra happy). I had now overcome my fear of racing, I loved the community, the encouragement and the competition. I took to training for cycling with an advanced bunch of gals and boys that kicked my butt all the time, pushed me beyond what I thought my limits were. (until then I was just a recreational rider). Three years or so later that race course came up again, I was so excited to go back. We went up the afternoon before the race, pre-rode the course a few times then went to the hotel to rest. All night I visualized the starting hill, every corner, every ramp, I visualized it all. That next day I won my very first mountain bike race.

    The power of the mind is a very potent catalyst! When promoted and transfered to the body, along with community encouragement, support and positive competition all barricades can and WILL be overcome, ALL feats are possible.

    Like Jeanette says to me all the time, ‘every time you step up to that bar you should be afraid’ – at first I thought she was crazy.. but then I realized what she meant – you push your envelop each time you step up, constant challenge, constant gains. Even if you fail that time, your mind is better equipped to take the challenge the next time.

  5. Kevin

    I guess we’re not a bunch of gym rats with all brawn and no brain 😉

    The community aspect of CrossFit is HUGE with regards to overcoming challenges and obstacles. A recent example would be Pierre after his accident. He came hobbling in the gym, just to see what we were all up to. And then we encouraged/motivated him to do a workout, busted ankle and all. I’ll have to let him speak for himself, but I bet he never thought he could do a workout, and as hard as he did, in his condition. But, he needed to have an I CAN attitude.

    Another recent event that speaks to the nature of community is the CrossFit Total. During and after every lift, no matter who was lifting, there was an eruption of applause and praise. I don’t know about everyone else, but the energy in the room definitely helped me lift/squat/press more than I thought I could.

    Kind of on a side note, but I’m also proud of the fact that whenever there’s a new face that comes by, everyone is very polite and friendly, and always introduces themselves. It certainly makes someone feel welcome.

    Anyway, like Krista said, keep pushing that envelop! You’ll be surprised with the results.

  6. Krista

    so.. motivated by recent comments, i decided to go do something that’s i’ve been wanting to do for some time but have always found excuses to not do.. run to CFM and back.

    sure it’s a bit cold and snowing, but it’s just weather, and weather will always be there. so off i went. (footing was a bit dicey at times, i spent as much time running in a car wheel track against traffic as possible for better traction)

    run to CFM- 28:49
    run back from CFM- 28:31

    total time- 57:20
    each way is 5km give or take a few meters.

    i tried pose method running today after watching some demos yesterday. i could really feel a difference in momentum and speed a few times when i was really concentrating on my form, but i’d get distracted and fall back into my usual way of running many times.

  7. Wow! Good for you Krista. I’m impressed.

    Second stop on the Globo-Gym Tour: YMCA
    WOD: The Bear Complex, Pyramid-style

    9-8-7-6-5-4-3-2-1 reps of:

    Front Squat
    Back Squat

    Weight – 45pounds

    Time – 24:24

    I think I’m in love with this workout.

  8. Kevin

    WOW Krista! That’s intense! And your time back was even faster. It takes a little while to switch over to pose. Once you do, it’s such a difference.

  9. Kevin

    I did that same workout with 65#.

    27:21 or something like that.

    Not only did I leave some business cards, I also left some skin and blood on their bar.

    Oh, and I tried for max shoulder press after that shoulder-blasting workout.

  10. Krista

    the bear complex sounds cool – is that going to be a ‘globo-gym tour’ only deal or might it show up at CFM at times? i’d like to try it!

    the run felt good, but not even close to my PR – i can’t wait to do it in better conditions to get more speed. i think it’s my first 10km in about 2 years.

    i saw a car like jeanette’s on my way to CFM by centennial park and i was so hoping it was her and she was going to CFM, cause i was SO thirsty. imagine my disappointment when there was no car in the lot, and i had the way back to go with no water. i almost ate snow. i’ll be more prepared next time.

  11. Pierre

    Same WOD as Jeanette with 65#…


    The back push press were the worst of this WOD.
    They were so hard that I have 2 bruises on the shoulders now. 🙂

    I really admired your courage Krista, to have ran in that -15ish weather for almost 1 hour! That’s awesome. I will have to try running from my place to CFM one day.

    I tried some butterfly kipping pullups at the Y….but without any succes. I will have to look at some videos over and over again to understand how it works. Maybe tomorrow.

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